As a parent, you are already equipped with positive parenting techniques that you believe can help in molding your child to a positive direction. Have you checked if the negative parenting styles had also been discarded? With the acquisition of positive things, the elimination of the negative ones supposedly follows.
Parenting mistakes or negative parenting techniques are often done without doing it deliberately. It is understandable and it is human nature that parents commit mistakes, maybe their “parenting instincts” had led them to err. The mistakes are frequently overlooked. But even if you are already the parent, there is room to correct these.
Here are five mistakes that are frequently overlooked and can be possibly reformed.
Ignoring problem is contra to positive parenting techniques
When problems come, face these. Though you may overlook the problem, it is still paramount to pay attention to it especially if the effect will be hostile to your child. There are times when parents are not sure on how to handle a problem and in such a case, they just ignore them and let the problem takes its course until it passes out. This should never be your attitude. Instead of just taking or accepting the issue and live with frustration, attempt to find solution and have it fixed. The earlier the problem is resolved, the better it will be for your relationship with your child.
Nagging whether to your child or to other people is very annoying. Sometimes you nag without realizing that you are doing so. At times you keep repeating and repeating things and that is already nagging. The worst part of nagging is when your child, in annoyance, immediately leaves and ignores you. What happens? You will be yelling in frustration. The thing to do is always talk nicely. Once you have said it, stop and if there is a pre-set consequence for what he did, then push on with the penalty.
Rules that can be impossible to do
Some parents impose rules that are hard to implement or apply in the house. As positive parenting techniques, make sure that your rules are applicable and easy to follow. They should also be gender and age applicable. Ensure that the rules are not too many at a time. Slowly set a few doable rules at a time. Once your child gets accustomed to them, you can begin adding, little by little and slowly again.
Narrow or closed mindedness and inconsistency
Sometimes parents assert their position in the house. Because of this, there is no flexibility, something that a child is bound to detest. Listen to your child and give him the chance to say what is in his head. You should not always put yourself in win-win situation just because you are his parent.
Be consistent in treating your child and in the implementation of the rules. With this as a part of the positive parenting techniques, your child will know what to expect. Without consistency, your child will be confused.
These are only a few of the common mistakes committed by parents. Putting your mind in them will result to positive parenting techniques that bring out the best in a child. Taking them off, you will foster harmony between you and your kid.