Teenagers are different than kids who are under ten or eleven years old. You cannot treat the teenagers the same way you have been treating them before. There are some tips and tricks that can keep your teenaged child on track but if they slip up, there are some specified consequences that can make them see what they did was wrong and they should not repeat it.
The best way of punishment is to let your child see for themselves that what they did was wrong by facing the natural consequences of their actions and behavior. Following are a few examples of how they can learn from this form of punishment that does not even involve you directly.
Not doing their assignments: If the adolescent is uninterested is unwilling to complete their homework or assignment, let them be. The following day, or on the day of submission, they will be faced with a situation where they will either score a zero straightaway or be held back after school time to complete the task.
Not following the house rules: If you have made it clear several times that the clothes are to be put in the hamper, otherwise they will not be washed, then follow your own rule. The natural consequence of this would be that the child will have to wear the dirty piece of clothing or not get to wear it at all- a lesson for the next time.
Making Them Do House Work
Of course your teenaged child be already participating in the chores at home already but if they misbehave, you could increase their work load, make them do some extra work as a punishment. But this will not only be a punishment but make them see how important it is to be responsible and fulfill the tasks assigned to them. It will have two benefits; punishment and training, all at once.
All the parents have some set of boundaries that their children are supposed to be follow. Making amendments to these restrictions according to the situation can also be used as a form of punishment.
If you have set the time to return home at 10 O’ clock at night time, at most and your teenaged child keeps violating the curfew, you should make it 9 O’ clock, one more hour cut off from their time to stay out. You can have some conditions that must be followed to get back that extra hour. For example, return home before nine for a week, or do some house chore for a specified number of days.
Another example could be their allowance for a week. If you give them $15 for a week for school, you can cut down on that allowance and have them manage using the lesser amount of money until they have learned their lesson.