When parents are angry and disappointed in their children, they tend to ignore the consequences that the kids might have to face because of the punishments that they receive. As a parent, it is your right to make your child see that something that they did was wrong and unacceptable, but there are certain ways to do it, and there are some ways that should not be adopted, no matter what. The following passage is about the latter.
Do Not Yell
When you are asking a kid to behave bit the tone of your voice is not nice or too screechy, what do you expect the little child to do? The kid will only get scared of your pitch and not pay attention to what you are actually expecting him or her to do.
If you want your child to actually follow what you are asking of them and give up on their misbehavior and unacceptable actions, you have to talk to the min a firm tone but not one that will only scare them and produce no useful outcome. Decide on suitable consequences, like taking away 30 minutes from their time of watching TV or playing outside. This will be more effective than yelling.
Do Not Use Threats
If you will keep threatening your child and scaring him or her of the consequences they might have to face but actually doing nothing, your child will learn to get through the time of receiving threats and won’t do anything to fix their behavior in the long run.
Instead of posing threats, be straightforward about your punishment. Make your child do some chores at home (like putting away the dishes, washing the car if they are old enough, or simply folding the laundry).
Do Not Punish For Tantrums
As for little kids who are not old enough to convey their message in a proper manner, they tend to throw tantrums and misbehave just so that they are heard and their desires are considered important. It does not mean that throwing tantrums is the right thing to do but at their age, it is a way of communication.
When your little one is in the middle of a tantrum, it is not wise to start scolding them or screaming at them to become quiet within seconds. Tantrums do not require severe punishments like other forms of behavior. The simplest way to deal with tantrums is to have your child sit down with you and ask them what the problem is. If it is something logical and worthy, you should definitely solve it for them, but if it something illogical, then you should divert their attention towards something else that interests them.
Try to avoid punishments as much as possible and figure out other ways to discipline your child for their better up bringing that does not bring down their self-esteem.